I have read so many articles and books about marriage and being a godly husband where scriptures are just sprinkled in but the majority of the writing expresses the authors opinions and deviates from the Word. So I want to try the opposite here.
Take care of her spiritual, physical and emotional needs like you care for yourself.
Ephesians 5 23 – 30 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.
Expect obedience and model obedience.
John 15:10 If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love ; just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love.
Teach her to serve with humility.
John 13: 12 – 16 When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you?
You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am.
If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you. Truly, truly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him
Pray for her, pray for oneness.
John 17: 9-11 “I ask on their behalf ; I do not ask on behalf of the world, but of those whom You have given Me; for they are Yours; and all things that are Mine are Yours, and Yours are Mine ; and I have been glorified in them. I am no longer in the world ; and yet they themselves are in the world, and I come to You. Holy Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are.”
Use your God given authority.
Be the family law giver.
John 14:15 “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.
I Thessalonians 4:2 For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.
Don’t tolerate dishonesty.
Acts 5:4-5 “While it remained unsold, did it not remain your own? And after it was sold, was it not under your control ? Why is it that you have conceived this deed in your heart ? You have not lied to men but to God.” And as he heard these words, Ananias fell down and breathed his last ; and great fear came over all who heard of it.
Call out her blind spots.
I Cor 11:31-32 But if we judged ourselves rightly, we would not be judged.
But when we are judged, we are disciplined by the Lord so that we will not be condemned along with the world.
Correct and discipline her, it leads to reward.
Rev 3:19-22 ‘Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline ; therefore be zealous and repent. ‘Behold, I stand at the door and knock ; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.
‘He who overcomes, I will grant to him to sit down with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne. ‘He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.’ “